What is The Goal in Disagreements?


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الحمد لله رب العالمين، والصلاة والسلام على سيد الأنبياء والمرسلين واله وأصحابه أجمعين أما بعد

Many of us have heard of the expression, “let us agree to disagree”. But what does it actually entail and how is it expressed?

Usually, when we ask of our interlocutor to agree to disagree with us, we are merely asking them to suspend their view for the sake of temporal harmony, until we somehow find the time to conclusively prove them wrong. 

How often have we had conflicting views with our friends, our spouses, even our teachers? To merely agree with them in the spirit of harmony would indeed be counter productive, as the inhibition of expression would aggravate the conflicting view that lingers within us, burns inside, and years to come out, as we truly feel it is the truth irrespective of who is the one that is bringing it forward. It then finally becomes a crusade for the truth, and our moral principle does not allow us to remain quiet anymore; we deem it our responsibility. Thus, with time, the agreement to abandon disagreement is abandoned itself.

So how do we dispute a view with which we disagree?

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